You’re managing medications, appointments, groceries, and phone calls.
You’re rearranging your schedule (again) to make sure nothing slips through the cracks.

You tell yourself it’s just part of helping. That you can handle it. But the exhaustion is getting harder to ignore. You’re tired, irritable, and barely have time to breathe, let alone rest.

The truth? You’re not failing. You’re just carrying more than one person should.

Caregiver burnout doesn’t always come with a breakdown. Often, it builds slowly until exhaustion becomes your new normal. This caregiver burnout quiz can help you check in with yourself and see where you really are. Because realizing you need support isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s how you keep going.

Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by the prolonged stress of caring for someone else. Burnout often comes when you lack enough rest, support, or relief for yourself.

It doesn’t happen overnight. It builds slowly, as your responsibilities grow and your needs fade into the background.

You might notice changes in how you feel or how you show up day to day.

Common signs of caregiver burnout include:

• Feeling constantly tired, even after rest
• Increased irritability, sadness, or anxiety
• Trouble focusing or making decisions
• Frequent headaches, body aches, or lowered immunity
• Withdrawing from others or losing interest in things you once enjoyed
• Feeling guilty for needing a break but craving one desperately

These symptoms don’t always look dramatic. Often, they’re quiet shifts that are easy to brush off until they become hard to ignore.

That’s why it helps to understand the stages of caregiver burnout. By recognizing where you are, you can take action early, before burnout takes a deeper toll on your health and ability to care.

Choose the answer that best reflects your current experience. At the end, tally your points to see where you stand and what to do next.

1. How often do you feel emotionally exhausted from caregiving?

A) Rarely – I feel fine most days.
B) Occasionally – I have low-energy days.
C) Often – I feel drained by the end of the day.
D) Almost always – I feel overwhelmed and emotionally depleted.

2. How much time do you have for yourself each week?

A) Plenty – I consistently make time for myself.
B) Some – I squeeze in short breaks when I can.
C) Very little – Most of my week revolves around caregiving.
D) None – I can’t remember the last time I did something for me.

3. In the past month, how well have you been sleeping?

A) Well – I sleep soundly most nights.
B) Fair – I get sleep but often wake up tired.
C) Poorly – I wake often or sleep too little.
D) Very poorly – My sleep is restless or almost nonexistent.

4. Do you feel guilty when you take time for yourself?

A) Not at all – I know it’s necessary.
B) Occasionally – It depends on the day.
C) Often – I feel selfish or anxious when I step away.
D) Always – I can’t enjoy time to myself without guilt.

5. How often do you feel irritable or resentful toward others—especially the person you’re caring for?

A) Rarely – I feel patient and understanding.
B) Sometimes – I have moments of frustration.
C) Frequently – I feel on edge much of the time.
D) Constantly – I feel guilty, but I’m often resentful.

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6. How would you describe your current physical health?

A) Good – I feel strong and energetic.
B) Fair – I notice some stress or fatigue.
C) Poor – I have frequent aches, illnesses, or fatigue.
D) Declining – I feel unwell and worry about my own health.

7. How easy is it to concentrate or stay focused on daily tasks?

A) Easy – I feel sharp and attentive.
B) Manageable – I get distracted but can refocus.
C) Difficult – I often feel mentally foggy or forgetful.
D) Very difficult – I struggle to complete basic tasks.

8. Have your relationships (family, work, social) been affected by caregiving?

A) Not at all – My relationships feel balanced.
B) Slightly – I’ve had to make a few adjustments.
C) Significantly – I’ve lost touch with people or missed important things.
D) Severely – I feel disconnected or isolated from others.

9. Do you feel like you’re the only one who can care for your loved one properly?

A) No – I trust others to support us.
B) Sometimes – It’s hard, but I ask for help when needed.
C) Often – I feel like no one else understands what they need.
D) Yes – I don’t believe anyone else can care for them the way I do.

10. How hopeful do you feel about your caregiving situation?

A) Very – I believe we’re on a good path.
B) Somewhat – I try to stay positive, but it’s hard.
C) Not very – I feel stuck or unsure about the future.
D) Not at all – I feel hopeless and exhausted.

• A = 1 point
• B = 2 points
• C = 3 points
• D = 4 points

Total Score: ______ / 40

🔎 10–16 points
You’re managing well—for now.
You’re coping, but don’t ignore early signs of stress. Protect your time and energy with clear boundaries and supportive routines.

🔎 17–24 points
You may be entering burnout.
Caregiving is starting to take a toll. Now is the time to make changes. Ask for help, talk to someone, and explore support options before stress escalates.

🔎 25–32 points
Moderate burnout risk.
You’re likely feeling depleted and overwhelmed. You’re doing your best, but it’s too much for one person. Burnout is real, but it’s preventable with the right support.

🔎 33–40 points
High burnout risk.
You’re in survival mode. This doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’ve carried too much for too long. It’s time to share the load.

Burnout rarely arrives all at once. For most caregivers, it builds gradually—starting with a few missed meals or sleepless nights and slowly shifting into something heavier and harder to carry alone.

While there’s no single clinical model for the stages of caregiver burnout, many caregivers report a progression like the one outlined below. Understanding where you might be can help you identify the type of support that could make a difference.

Phase 1: Concerned but Coping
You’re managing… for now. You’ve made adjustments to your routine, you’re staying alert to your loved one’s needs, and you’re trying to hold everything together. You’re tired, but still pushing through.

Phase 2: Overextended
Boundaries blur. Breaks become rare, sleep suffers, and your needs consistently fall to the bottom of the list. Fatigue lingers, and guilt creeps in even when you consider doing something for yourself.

Phase 3: Chronic Strain
The weight of responsibility starts to show. You might be missing work, forgetting appointments, or feeling physically unwell. Relationships may feel distant. You’re still showing up, but it’s costing you more than others realize.

Phase 4: Emotional Numbness
Compassion fatigue sets in. You feel emotionally flat or detached. Joy feels distant. You may be going through the motions, silently wondering how much longer you can keep going.

Phase 5: Breaking Point
For some, burnout becomes a health emergency: emotional, physical, or both. It can look like illness, panic attacks, or total withdrawal. This isn’t failure. It’s a signal that your body and mind need care, too.

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Caregiving should never come at the cost of your health. If this caregiver burnout quiz revealed signs of burnout, or these phases of burnout feel familiar, please know there is help.

Burnout thrives in silence. It convinces you that asking for help means you’re not doing enough. But the reality is asking for help is how you protect your health, your family, and your ability to keep caring.

Here are a few first steps:

→ Acknowledge what you’re carrying. It’s okay to admit it’s too much. That’s not weakness… It’s wisdom.
→ Talk to someone. A friend, a doctor, or a therapist. Say the hard things out loud.
→ Set one new boundary. Even if it’s small. One afternoon to yourself. One less “yes.” One phone call you don’t take.
→ Reimagine caregiving with support. You don’t have to do it all to be a loving caregiver. The best care happens when professionals are part of the picture.

This is where Beyond Neighbours can help.

At Beyond Neighbours, we understand that caring for a parent or aging loved one often comes with invisible stress. You’re expected to manage medical needs, daily routines, and emotional changes—and still be the anchor for everyone else.

We believe no one should carry that alone.

Our physician-led care model is built to close the gaps that create burnout. From the first conversation, we help families move from constant coordination to coordinated care where medical oversight, daily support, and long-term planning are all aligned.

You’re still involved, but you’re no longer the only one holding it all together.

We provide:

✅ Expert, physician-guided care tailored to your loved one’s evolving needs
✅ Continuity and coordination, so nothing gets missed
✅ Responsive support that adapts as things change… without last-minute scrambling
✅ Peace of mind, knowing you have a professional team in place

When you have the right support, caregiving becomes less about surviving and more about connection, presence, and peace.

If you’re a caregiver who is feeling overwhelmed, Beyond Neighbours is here to help.

Contact us today to schedule a confidential consultation and discuss how our physician-led approach to private senior home care in Calgary can provide the support, relief, and trust your family deserves.

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